So there seems to be some debate about how much we should pay as part of Brexit

[Burney]

They're going to make a bloody example of us, B

My other half is going to have to go and live in Amsterdam if things don't work out.

If that's what they want, then have at it. EU member states have as much to lose by such an outcome as we do. To push for such an outcome would be to put the ideological purity of the EU project ahead of the interests of its member states and I wonder how forgiving the people of those member states would be of such as stance once the results started to bite.