Oooh dear. The missus has asked if she can go for a weekend meet-up

[Monty91]

with some buddies to mark the anniversary of their friend's death......on Sunday 15th May, the day that Mikel and Per will lift the Premiership trophy at the Emirates.

Now, this is one of those situations where the *right* thing to do is glaringly obvious, and yet every pore of my being is telling me I simply can't say I'll miss the game.

Would that make me the worst human ever? :-(

[Berni]

[7evens]

which could be interpreted as an act of faux grief.
You know, it's a private gathering for an inner circle, type thing.

You'll be ultimately redundant anyway and not be able to participate in any of that reflective and anecdotal banter for the deceased.

f**k that..

[Red N White Army]

This is exactly where grandparents come in imo

[Ashberto]

[Berni]

Honestly, I can't imagine anything worse than sitting around wallowing in someone's deadness.

Let the dead bury the dead imo. This sort of mawkishness is unhealthy.

[Monty91]

slagging off her ex husband who started posting Facebook pics of him and his new girlfriend while the body was still warm.

[redgunamo]

[Berni]

Do you mean he was a very recently bereaved widower and then got back in the saddle with indecent haste?

[Steve Williams - gay for Mark Knopfler]

Your priorities are as important as hers.

Ultimately if she is away for the weekend then it is not impossible for her to at least be back for mid-day thus allowing you a good 2-3 hours in the pub before the game.

All parties happy.

[redgunamo]

Just kidding. I admire the idea of the non-playing club captain. Classy.

[Red N White Army]

Of course, no sooner had I voiced these concerns, our form has gone to ****.

[Ashberto]

[redgunamo]

[Steve Williams - gay for Mark Knopfler]

I did that once around 2001/2, a Sunday game v Middlesbrough I think.

I had just returned from Leeds and had not time even for a swift 4 or 5 pints. It was quite awful.

[Steve Williams - gay for Mark Knopfler]

I expect Monty to be the boss in his own house that his Mrs pays for.

[Berni]

with what is essentially just a football match.

Now for me, the deathiversary is a nonsense and a farce, but I'm playing Devil's advocate.

My argument would be that it's not like she hasn't had it in the diary for months, so she should have made arrangements before now.

[Berni]

[Ashberto]

Is it one of these dreadful septic imports, like baby showers? :shudder:

Mourning sickness gone mad imo.

[Berni]

I know the Mexicans do the Day of the Dead thing, but that looks like a bit of a laugh.

[redgunamo]

fallen comrades and so on, often over a few beers.

No idea when it became a "thing" though, rather than a fact.

[Classic Jorge]

[Berni]

And letting women do it, obviously.

[Jake]

[Monty91]

[Classic Jorge]

[redgunamo]

[Classic Jorge]

These days it's tough in the North Finchley ghetto, brothas be dying in Waitrose car park.
https://33.media.tumblr.com/96cdac0c23b1e6f4b93e6db9362738e4/tumblr_inline_n63bmyQkw71qa7k0a.gif

[redgunamo]

[Berni]

months afterwards was her dead husband's best man. Obviously I make no judgement of her in this matter (whatever gets you through the night and so forth), but would question his motivations and sense of decency.

However, I kept my trap shut as it's very much none of my f**king business. They seem happy enough, so good luck to them. :shrug:

[Berni]

[Classic Jorge]

[redgunamo]

Otherwise, why is he the best man.

[Berni]

she threw a seven?

In these cases, couples often come to their own arrangements about such things. A man has needs, after all.

[Steve Williams - gay for Mark Knopfler]

I just assume you have never been in a situation which may warrant such a soiree.

I have a good mates 1st anniversary at the end of March and would be reasonably confident of a rake of pints in McSorleys in Ranelagh. It’s an excuse if nothing else, a reason for a group of chaps to meet up who because of the business of ordinary life may not have met up since the funeral.

No pressure on attendance of course.

[Classic Jorge]

[Berni]

I wasn't aware that post-mortem shagging of the widow was part of the deal.

[redgunamo]

There's never any malt vinegar left for my chips because broads, as Jorge would say, use it all up mixing their beauty potions and whatnot :-(

[Berni]

How on earth can the locals resist a woman who smells of hot chips?

[Classic Jorge]

[Classic Jorge]

[redgunamo]

[Berni]

and age imo.

The mother of the dead husband cut my sister dead when she found out. Mind you, she was a silly cow.

[redgunamo]

It's just that the only one of these item I care about is the vinegar.

[Jake]

I suppose it's whether you define it as such, it doesn't seem weird if you meet up around the same time every year. But making it a sort of titled occasion is odd, imo.

[redgunamo]

[Berni]

that reminds them of the dead person and sit around talking about it for several hours. Then people will start crying. It will be unpleasant.

I'm sure there's no crying at sw's events.

[Bergkamp's Brain]

You have 3 months to sort it out. Shirley it can't be that hard.

Altenatively, how would you feel if you told her to eff off and we spent May 15th trying to secure the 4th place trophy? :hide:

[Jake]

The difference in reaction is really wonderful and I suppose you need both really.

Lasses - "Oh god", tears, hugs, emotionally volatile atmosphere for all

Lads - "f**k/****/oh *******s", silence, I'll get the pints, think positive, crisps, pints, drugs

[Bergkamp's Brain]

[Jake]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vvgIr8VjhY

[redgunamo]

[Ashberto]

And remembrance day is about sacrifice, surely, and not really a party for most people.

[redgunamo]