I'm sure your wife is a lovely lady and I wouldn't dream of harming a hair on her head. However, you said threats were fine as long as they stayed as threats. I was wondering if this principle applied across the board, is all.
Hang on, though...are you saying you hold my details and are proposing to pass them onto a third party without permission?
The GDPR police will be kicking your door down very soon, my friend.