Anyone see the Rio Ferdinand documentary about his wife croaking?

[Burney]

But it seems from the doc that he's chosen, presumably out of a sense of guilt and responsibility, not to take on a full time nanny and instead do all of that horrific child-rearing sh*t himself.

Which is pretty decent of the bloke, surely. In fact I don't remember seeing any kind of nanny the whole programme.

Oh, well if you didn't see a nanny, I'm sure there definitely wasn't one.

Seriously, though, I don't care about Rio Ferdinand's feelz. He can fück off.

[Pokster]

Oh, well if you didn't see a nanny, I'm sure there definitely wasn't one.

Seriously, though, I don't care about Rio Ferdinand's feelz. He can fück off.

Would be more tragic if you lost a partner with no warning (like the Spanish girl last week) and then have to bring up kids on your own

[PSRB]

Would be more tragic if you lost a partner with no warning (like the Spanish girl last week) and then have to bring up kids on your own

tbf, I think it would be pretty tragic for any child to lose one or both their parents.....if we're going to be a teeny bit serious on the matter

[Burney]

tbf, I think it would be pretty tragic for any child to lose one or both their parents.....if we're going to be a teeny bit serious on the matter

Yeah. Although if I were Rio Ferdinand's kids, I'd definitely have preferred it if he'd have died instead.

[Pokster]

tbf, I think it would be pretty tragic for any child to lose one or both their parents.....if we're going to be a teeny bit serious on the matter

Having been in that situation myself, i agree

[Burney]

Having been in that situation myself, i agree

I guess this would be a bad time for a 'your mum' joke, right?

[7sisters]

Would be more tragic if you lost a partner with no warning (like the Spanish girl last week) and then have to bring up kids on your own

It happened to me back in the late 90's while living and working abroad. Kids were very young and yes, it was a tough few years. Life inevitably does move on but the inner strength comes more from not wanting to let your kids down and not from any hand wringing or woe is me stuff. People have always paid great tribute to me over the years but I say that anyone in the same circumstances would do the same thing.. Afterall, what choice do you really have

[Burney]

It happened to me back in the late 90's while living and working abroad. Kids were very young and yes, it was a tough few years. Life inevitably does move on but the inner strength comes more from not wanting to let your kids down and not from any hand wringing or woe is me stuff. People have always paid great tribute to me over the years but I say that anyone in the same circumstances would do the same thing.. Afterall, what choice do you really have

This is the thing about most crappy bits of life - be it bereavement, illness, divorce or whatever. The option of crawling under the covers and dying doesn't really exist, so you have to sort of muddle through as best you can. I find people calling stuff like that brave or admirable quite irritating. It isn't brave for a drowning man to cling to the wreckage and swim to shore, is it? It's just what you have to do.

[Sir C]

This is the thing about most crappy bits of life - be it bereavement, illness, divorce or whatever. The option of crawling under the covers and dying doesn't really exist, so you have to sort of muddle through as best you can. I find people calling stuff like that brave or admirable quite irritating. It isn't brave for a drowning man to cling to the wreckage and swim to shore, is it? It's just what you have to do.

I agree. ****s going through a hard time, how dare anyone give them the benefit of the doubt and exhibit some empathy? If I see anyone bereaved I always call them a feckless waster and punch them in the face to encourage them to man up. Yes.

[Burney]

I agree. ****s going through a hard time, how dare anyone give them the benefit of the doubt and exhibit some empathy? If I see anyone bereaved I always call them a feckless waster and punch them in the face to encourage them to man up. Yes.

Where did I suggest not showing sympathy? I simply find the sort of fatuous, unthinking application of words like 'brave' to people who are just getting through the shït life throws at one deeply irritating. The one that really annoys me is all the stuff about people's 'brave fight' against cancer. A/ You don't fight cancer, the doctors do. You're just the battlefield. B/ It implies that someone who dies is really just a fücking quitter.