Last week I asked a question regarding my career. This week I have a new question.

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06-26-2017, 10:15 AM
Pat Vegas

Last week I asked a question regarding my career. This week I have a new question.

A real question.

So the gist of my current situation is carry on as usual hopefully buy a place. The place will be tiny and in an area I don't like and put me in debt for the rest of my working life in a city I am not very fond of.

How about a different option.
what if I move to Italy to a place we already own with very low bills, where I can take a break from working and play my guitars at home and chill out, learn a new language. Not far from Milan easy to pop back to the UK when needed. my wife is happy to work and suggested I could take a break and take time to do what I want and play my guitars and have a much more relaxed life help her brother decorate his house etc, find a job later or study or learn something new. and somewhere I don't have to continuously think about this house buying stuff, paying large rents, being stuck in traffic, For example it took me an hour and half to get to Brent Cross it's 6 miles away. Then I can stop moaning.

We already have what we need there. It's got a nice terrace big rooms, very quiet. sell our car here and buy one there. I have given up on the idea of being some sort of successful office type, I'd rather work there in even in a supermarket as we have what we need.
06-26-2017, 10:17 AM
Pokster

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Originally Posted by Pat Vegas

A real question.

So the gist of my current situation is carry on as usual hopefully buy a place. The place will be tiny and in an area I don't like and put me in debt for the rest of my working life in a city I am not very fond of.

How about a different option.
what if I move to Italy to a place we already own with very low bills, where I can take a break from working and play my guitars at home and chill out, learn a new language. Not far from Milan easy to pop back to the UK when needed. my wife is happy to work and suggested I could take a break and take time to do what I want and play my guitars and have a much more relaxed life help her brother decorate his house etc, find a job later or study or learn something new. and somewhere I don't have to continuously think about this house buying stuff, paying large rents, being stuck in traffic, For example it took me an hour and half to get to Brent Cross it's 6 miles away. Then I can stop moaning.

We already have what we need there. It's got a nice terrace big rooms, very quiet. sell our car here and buy one there. I have given up on the idea of being some sort of successful office type, I'd rather work there in even in a supermarket as we have what we need.

Go for it.
06-26-2017, 10:19 AM
Billy Goat Sverige

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Originally Posted by Pat Vegas

A real question.

So the gist of my current situation is carry on as usual hopefully buy a place. The place will be tiny and in an area I don't like and put me in debt for the rest of my working life in a city I am not very fond of.

How about a different option.
what if I move to Italy to a place we already own with very low bills, where I can take a break from working and play my guitars at home and chill out, learn a new language. Not far from Milan easy to pop back to the UK when needed. my wife is happy to work and suggested I could take a break and take time to do what I want and play my guitars and have a much more relaxed life help her brother decorate his house etc, find a job later or study or learn something new. and somewhere I don't have to continuously think about this house buying stuff, paying large rents, being stuck in traffic, For example it took me an hour and half to get to Brent Cross it's 6 miles away. Then I can stop moaning.

We already have what we need there. It's got a nice terrace big rooms, very quiet. sell our car here and buy one there. I have given up on the idea of being some sort of successful office type, I'd rather work there in even in a supermarket as we have what we need.

I haven't regretted it. Go for it, F.
06-26-2017, 10:19 AM
Sir C

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Originally Posted by Pat Vegas

A real question.

So the gist of my current situation is carry on as usual hopefully buy a place. The place will be tiny and in an area I don't like and put me in debt for the rest of my working life in a city I am not very fond of.

How about a different option.
what if I move to Italy to a place we already own with very low bills, where I can take a break from working and play my guitars at home and chill out, learn a new language. Not far from Milan easy to pop back to the UK when needed. my wife is happy to work and suggested I could take a break and take time to do what I want and play my guitars and have a much more relaxed life help her brother decorate his house etc, find a job later or study or learn something new. and somewhere I don't have to continuously think about this house buying stuff, paying large rents, being stuck in traffic, For example it took me an hour and half to get to Brent Cross it's 6 miles away. Then I can stop moaning.

We already have what we need there. It's got a nice terrace big rooms, very quiet. sell our car here and buy one there. I have given up on the idea of being some sort of successful office type, I'd rather work there in even in a supermarket as we have what we need.

Doss around at home living off the earnings of your wife, f?

:-(
06-26-2017, 10:20 AM
Pat Vegas

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Originally Posted by Sir C

Doss around at home living off the earnings of your wife, f?

:-(

:nod: But I can get a couple of ace amps and play my *******s off.
then I will get youtube rich.

her idea though. I said won't you start to hate me in this situation.
06-26-2017, 10:21 AM
IUFG

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Originally Posted by Pat Vegas

A....where I can take a break from working and play my guitars at home and chill out, learn a new language. Not far from Milan easy to pop back to the UK when needed. my wife is happy to work and suggested I could take a break and take time to do what I want and play my guitars and have a much more relaxed life help her brother decorate his house etc, find a job later or study or learn something new.

Reread this bit matey.

I think you'll answer your own question.
06-26-2017, 10:21 AM
Rich

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Originally Posted by Sir C

Doss around at home living off the earnings of your wife, f?

:-(

I dream of being a kept man. I'm ace with the hoover :cloud9:
06-26-2017, 10:24 AM
Sir C

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Originally Posted by Pat Vegas

:nod: But I can get a couple of ace amps and play my *******s off.
then I will get youtube rich.

her idea though. I said won't you start to hate me in this situation.

More relevant is that you'll hate yourself.

I don't wish to be harsh, f, but there is a word for a man who lives from the earnings of a lady, and it's an ugly word. For an ugly business. :-(

Take a couple of years. Work hard and learn to speak Italian. Make her speak to you only in Italian, you'll be relatively fluent in a couple of years. Then go to Italy and get a job.
06-26-2017, 10:27 AM
Pat Vegas

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Originally Posted by Sir C

More relevant is that you'll hate yourself.

I don't wish to be harsh, f, but there is a word for a man who lives from the earnings of a lady, and it's an ugly word. For an ugly business. :-(

Take a couple of years. Work hard and learn to speak Italian. Make her speak to you only in Italian, you'll be relatively fluent in a couple of years. Then go to Italy and get a job.

I'll definitely work. I think being there will make me learn quicker. Once I am there for a few days it starts becoming normal.
06-26-2017, 10:30 AM
Peter

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Originally Posted by Pat Vegas

A real question.

So the gist of my current situation is carry on as usual hopefully buy a place. The place will be tiny and in an area I don't like and put me in debt for the rest of my working life in a city I am not very fond of.

How about a different option.
what if I move to Italy to a place we already own with very low bills, where I can take a break from working and play my guitars at home and chill out, learn a new language. Not far from Milan easy to pop back to the UK when needed. my wife is happy to work and suggested I could take a break and take time to do what I want and play my guitars and have a much more relaxed life help her brother decorate his house etc, find a job later or study or learn something new. and somewhere I don't have to continuously think about this house buying stuff, paying large rents, being stuck in traffic, For example it took me an hour and half to get to Brent Cross it's 6 miles away. Then I can stop moaning.

We already have what we need there. It's got a nice terrace big rooms, very quiet. sell our car here and buy one there. I have given up on the idea of being some sort of successful office type, I'd rather work there in even in a supermarket as we have what we need.

The real question is why you haven't done this already.
06-26-2017, 10:31 AM
Billy Goat Sverige

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Originally Posted by Pat Vegas

I'll definitely work. I think being there will make me learn quicker. Once I am there for a few days it starts becoming normal.

It was hard for me because over here they all learn english at school from the age of 6 and everyone speaks really good english. I imagine over there it's more a case of speak Italian or you're ****ed.
06-26-2017, 10:35 AM
Burney

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Originally Posted by Pat Vegas

A real question.

So the gist of my current situation is carry on as usual hopefully buy a place. The place will be tiny and in an area I don't like and put me in debt for the rest of my working life in a city I am not very fond of.

How about a different option.
what if I move to Italy to a place we already own with very low bills, where I can take a break from working and play my guitars at home and chill out, learn a new language. Not far from Milan easy to pop back to the UK when needed. my wife is happy to work and suggested I could take a break and take time to do what I want and play my guitars and have a much more relaxed life help her brother decorate his house etc, find a job later or study or learn something new. and somewhere I don't have to continuously think about this house buying stuff, paying large rents, being stuck in traffic, For example it took me an hour and half to get to Brent Cross it's 6 miles away. Then I can stop moaning.

We already have what we need there. It's got a nice terrace big rooms, very quiet. sell our car here and buy one there. I have given up on the idea of being some sort of successful office type, I'd rather work there in even in a supermarket as we have what we need.

I appreciate that this sounds very tempting in a 'fück the rat race'-type way. However, the reality would eventually be you sitting around doing fück all while she earns a few bob to keep the wolf from the door. This would come with its own stresses. You would hate it and feel trapped and she would come to resent it.
06-26-2017, 10:36 AM
Peter

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Originally Posted by Burney

You would hate it and feel trapped and she would come to resent it.

Isn't that the inevitable destination of any long term relationship? :D
06-26-2017, 10:40 AM
Pat Vegas

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Originally Posted by Burney

I appreciate that this sounds very tempting in a 'fück the rat race'-type way. However, the reality would eventually be you sitting around doing fück all while she earns a few bob to keep the wolf from the door. This would come with its own stresses. You would hate it and feel trapped and she would come to resent it.

This is also what I've been thinking. though we do have some money in the bank.
Though Milan is nearby for work and a few other smaller cities. Or alternatively the Swiss border is not far the other way and a lot of people travel there for work as they pay well apparently.